Put on the disease
The diagnosis is an interesting thing — you can carry it like a banner in front of you, scaring the unlucky public.
You can define yourself through it and find at least something that will allow you to be involved in a certain group. It will finally reduce the feeling of oppressive loneliness.
You can justify your actions or inactions to them. Or you can, for example, spend your whole life trying to prove to others that you are not equal to your diagnosis. That you are broader than him. You can perceive it as punishment for something, and carry it like a cross. At the same time, it is important not to forget to tell others that this is “as punishment.” Otherwise it won’t work. Or you can simply know that you have it, and know what limitations this fact brings with it. Be in balance as much as possible based on real possibilities.
Our attitude towards the disease determines what goals we pursue.
If in our family love is shown only to those who are sick, then it is obvious that you have to be sick in order to be noticed and given attention. Or you can, for example, try to “bargain” for control over others when you get sick. Surely, you have seen examples where a grandmother grabs her heart every time if something contradicts her idea of the norm. It seems paradoxical, but in some families it is necessary for someone to be sick, otherwise the family as such…
